Divorce Coaching | X & Y Communications - Deserve What You Want Landing

You're Not A Couple Anymore...But You Don't Have To Be Alone

Divorce is more than just a legal process. The human toll weighs immensely, of course. And there’s no sugar coating it: the pain, confusion and even regret can seem overwhelming.

You’ve hired a lawyer, so the legal part is in good hands. Meanwhile, your family and friends mean well, but there’s just so much that’s still uncomfortable to talk about…if not too risky to disclose.

It’s completely normal to still feel isolated and lost during these most trying of times. The power of having an experienced coach to stand with you through this ordeal cannot be underestimated.

It's Not Really About Winning Or Losing

Even as the legal matters are sorted through, the real-world human elements remain in a state of chaos.

How do you decide what’s really in the kids’ best interest? How do you navigate a divorce when the deck seems so stacked against you?

Is there any way to tone down the anger and resentment? Can you take your personal power back after feeling betrayed…or even violated? Was your partner not playing on an even field, leaving you feeling manipulated? Do you just feel as if you’re constantly on the short end of the stick?

Regardless of who’s “at fault”, how can you ease the anger, tension and vengeful bitterness so that the whole process doesn’t drag on…weighing on your soul, your finances and especially your kids?

We Stand With You When It Matters Most

We’re Scot and Emily McKay and we have been there…both having suffered through painful, soul-crushing divorces that dragged on too long, left our kids heartbroken and ending up costing everything.

But rather than becoming cynical or jaded, we bounced back and eventually found each other. In doing so we found love again. And hey, creating a blended family made the best of a tough situation for the kids.

Nowadays, with over 18 years of experience, we’re here to help you reclaim your power and navigate this challenging chapter.

Book your free consultation and let’s talk about it. We’ll listen…and decide with you if working together is the right way to go.

Indeed, by the time one or both of you is exploring legal options the situation has usually reached fever pitch. But you don’t have to let divorce define you.

We stand in the gap, helping you to minimize the negative impact in the here and now and empowering you for the future. Get the tools, strategies, and support to help you thrive.

And of course, if there is any chance of reconciliation, we are in the unique position to help you find it and act on it.

"Check out Scot's wealth of information about relationships. He’s been at this for a long time and knows what he’s talking about."Raiford Palmer - Managing Partner of STG Divorce Law, P.C. in Chicago, author of bestselling divorce guide I Just Want This Done

Here's What Divorce Coaching Can Help You With

NEVER FEEL ALONE: Gain An Objective, Confidential Advocate Who Listens

GET REAL SUPPORT: Discover A Safe Space To Discuss Frustrations, Fears And Aspirations

RECEIVE GUIDANCE: Discern What Course Of Action Is Best For You AND Your Kids

REDUCE YOUR PAIN: Minimize Negative Impacts Of The Divorce On You, Your Finances And Your Family

EASE YOUR MIND: Handle Stress, Anger, Resentment And Bitterness

AVOID DISTRACTIONS: Social Media, Messaging And Communication Strategy

GAIN CLARITY: Set Both Your Mind And Your Conscience Free

ELIMINATE COMPLICATIONS: Lessen The Length, Complexity And Cost Of The Divorce Process

STAND STRONG: Put An End To Manipulation And "Guilt Trips"

FEEL EMPOWERED: Take Your Confidence And Personal Power Back

GET UNSTUCK: Handle Anger And Resentment...Move Forward With Clarity And Purpose

TAKE BACK CONTROL: Mitigate The Effects Of The Divorce On Your Career And Other Interests

CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITIES: Whether It's Reconciliation Or Getting Back Out There, Have A Detailed Plan Of Action

"I've been in the field of psychotherapy and consulting for 55 years. I have just met Scot recently but he is the most genuine, creative, likable and successful person I've ever met in the coaching field. I can't wait to talk to him again."Homer McDonald, author of Stop Your Divorce

Here's What Is Included

Unlimited Planning Session

5 Full Sessions (60 Minutes Each) To Enact A Plan Of Action

One Full Year Of Unlimited Tactical Sessions (20 Minutes Each) To Handle Urgent Issues

One Full Year Unlimited E-Mail Coaching

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I would like to take this time out to just say thank You. Thank you for giving back to the world even after your experience. Thank you for helping men like me be a better man. Thank you for helping women by teaching men. I wish you happiness for the rest of your life with Emily, as you have empowered me to do the same.Daniel

What you're doing is like a Godsend to people like me. It’s good to know what I've been doing wrong for so long, and the well-meaning but often wrong advice of friends and family never really gave much of a clue. Thank you for being out there and helping to change things. The less frustrated guys are out there, the less problems the world will have and the happier we'll all be.Olangato

I haven't felt this good and confident in myself...ever. I can't give you all the credit but you are definitely an integral part. I don't generally blow smoke up people’s keester unless they deserve it.Nathan

There are few peers in your league of what you teach, and none who are as well-rounded or complete in what you teach.Jeff

I can't thank you enough for all the knowledge that you shed upon me! I learned so much from you in the many conversations we had that you just can't put a price tag on. You helped me to start thinking differently about what I really wanted. This allowed me to really sit back and raise my standards and not just settle for anyone anymore.Nick

I wanted to tell you that you are for real. Thank you for providing real value.Mike

Scot and Emily McKay

Scot and Emily McKay are professional dating and relationship coaches, authors, conference speakers and podcast hosts. Together they founded X & Y Communications in San Antonio, TX, which focuses on equipping and empowering men and women who want to go from good to great in their relationships. Globally recognized as thought leaders in their field, their work has touched well over 500,000 people all over the world through their newsletters, podcasts and social media. They are the authors of ten books between them, including four Amazon #1 bestsellers, and have been featured by over 500 media outlets worldwide, including MTV, ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, Men’s Health, Elite Daily, Forbes and The Wall Street Journal. Both Scot and Emily are Traveler’s Century Club members, having explored well over 100 countries together, often with their four children.